I constantly ask myself... WHY did I spend all that time and money on IUI? Why did I do this to myself 5 fucking times!? Don't do what I did! Well, unless your insurance covers it, then, you do you! I can assure you, it will still take a HUGE toll on your emotional state. You really need to ask yourself if it's worth it.
If you are experiencing infertility, or a pregnancy loss, etc. you are probably dreading the holidays.
You are mentally preparing for all of the potential "baby" scenarios. Like, that beautiful pregnant cousin of yours, all glowy and shit. Why is she so damn perfect anyway? Great-grandma means well, but you know the "when are you having kids" question is coming. Bless her little heart. And the thought of all the little kids opening gifts and sharing special moments with their parents will having you running for the nearest bottle of vodka and box of tissues.
Whether you are dating, married, or over 30 and single, there is always some f*cking idiot who asks the question - "When are you going to have kids?" or "Are you guys trying?". We've all heard it. And we all HATE it! My husband, Jonathan, and I have had years and years of practice with this question. So, I thought, Hell, why not share our favorite comebacks.
In my talks with other women experiencing infertility, I've found that it's never easy when a loved one gets pregnant. We all experience it. It doesn't matter who the person is. A family member, a friend, or a co-worker. It's ALWAYS hard.The feelings can be really dark and ugly. Don't feel bad about those feelings. We all get them. I promise!
But here's the deal...
I know what grieving feels like. That feeling of deep, deep sadness. Constant crying until you run out of tears. Anger. Emptiness. Guilt. Worry. Helplessness. Hopelessness. That pain in your gut you just can’t explain. I honestly just thought I was really f*cking sad. The kind of sadness you feel in your bones. The kind of sadness that brings unpredictable tears that you never see coming. The kind of sadness that makes it hard for you to be happy for people you love. The kind of sadness that is so deep it feels like it's a part of you. A physiological sadness, if you will.