infertility can really suck.

 

After keeping it a secret for many years, I finally "came out" with my disease in 2015. I was tired of fighting against all of the ridiculous expectations placed on me by society -  like when I should get married or start a family.  Along the way, I learned how to navigate the "secret world" of infertility - on my own - and alone. It sucked! 

I just can't let that happen to you! 

Thus, I've created this blog for YOU, to make you laugh, remind you that you CAN DO THIS, and to offer resources to help you keep fighting like the warrior that you are!

 
 
 
 

WHAT INFERTILITY LOOKS LIKE

 
 
 
 
 

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I Survived Infertility And So Will You.
I Survived Infertility And So Will You.

I remember this defining moment like it was yesterday. The doctor told me that it was almost impossible for me to conceive. She told me that it was going to be a huge uphill battle if I wanted to get pregnant. I had already tried multiple rounds of fertility treatments, IUIs, IVF, laparoscopy, acupuncture, Chinese herbs, you name it. Infertility was my life. It had consumed every piece of my being. I didn’t go on trips, I didn’t eat certain foods, I was wearing UGG boots in the summer because someone told me it would help my fertility if I kept my feet warm.

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Infertility and Sex: Why My Husband Wouldn't Sleep With Me for Almost a Year
Infertility and Sex: Why My Husband Wouldn't Sleep With Me for Almost a Year

On November 8th, 2017, the day of our IVF transfer, we had sex that morning before heading into the surgery center. It wasn’t something we planned to do, and to be honest, we probably should have cleared this by our doctor, but we knew this day was special and wanted to somehow feel like we romantically came together and made a baby. I had no idea this would be the last time I would make love to my husband until after Flo was born. Seven weeks postpartum to be exact. According to math, that’s TEN WHOLE MONTHS without fornication.

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Flo's Birth Story: The Day Our Lives Changed Forever
Flo's Birth Story: The Day Our Lives Changed Forever

This is it y'all. The BEST, most scary, most exciting day of my life. The day our sweet baby Flo entered this world. Yes, I setup a GoPro camera in the corner to capture her arrival. And yes, I've watched it at least a dozen times already. Don't worry, you won't see my coot coot or any weird shit. I'm keeping it classy, for once.  But before you watch the video, and think, wow, that looks so easy, she literally pushed for under a minute... Let me tell you somethin' (in my best Ace Ventura voice). There were A LOT of challenges leading up to this moment. 

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🎉 HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT 🎉When a Donor Egg mama and a Surrogate mama walk into a coffee shop... and meet for the first time... AMAZING shit happens! 🤩 I recently attended the @newmomschool in Newport Beach, a local support and education program for new moms going thru the same thing at the same time. Yes, a mom group. Something I said I’d never do, and honestly don’t know how I would have survived without it. That group saved me! Newborns are scary! 😩😆 This group led me to this amazing warrior right here, my new friend Taryn, a mother by surrogacy (and no, she’s not on IG yet!). One of the first sentences I said to Taryn was - “if only we had met sooner we could have swapped and saved a shit ton of money - your eggs, my womb”? 🤷🏼‍♀️ And that’s how FAST FRIENDS are made, right??🤣 And so... dun dun dun... we are launching a local program for #infertile women called @infertilityunfiltered right where it all began, in the beautiful New Mom School facility in Newport Beach, CA. ☀️ And TRUST me when I say - this is NOT your average support group, y’all! We’re ditching the plastic folding chairs and shitty coffee. We will be sitting on the floor in our comfy clothes with wine! 🍷 UNFILTERED! Join us to learn, grow, heal, and laugh! Stay tuned for more deets @infertilityunfiltered • COMING SOON • #infertilitysupportgroup
OMG. THIS COUPLE! 😭 This is the true definition of a warrior! Congrats Alisha, you deserve a Dream Nursery TIMES THREE! 👶🏽👶🏽👶🏽. . Alisha’s Story:  In 2008 I was diagnosed with stage 4 endometerosis but at the age of 22, I had no idea how it would ever effect my fertility. In 2010 I got married and we planned to try naturally until we turned 30 - only seeking fertility assistance if we hadn’t made a baby by then. The years passed and before we knew it, 2015 had arrived and it was time to meet with a specialist. . My diagnoses: stage 4 endo, mild to moderate adenomyosis, hashimotos and DOR. I had a total of 4 laparoscopic surgeries (3 between 2015-2018) and I even took Lupron Depot to suppress my ovaries. But after my 5th failed ivf cycle (total of 7 embryos and 2 miscarriages) I came to terms with the idea that I would never be a biological mom.  And that’s when I stumbled across Victoria’s IG account @expectinganything where she shared her journey to motherhood with the help of an egg donor. . But finding an Indian egg donor in Canada (without going bankrupt!) proved to be quite the challenge. So I did a lot of research and within 45 days we packed our bags and landed in Europe where we did something called a Tandem IVF Cycle. To our surprise - my uterus took a liking to this new protocol and I’m currently 14 weeks pregnant...WITH TRIPLETS!! 👶🏽👶🏽👶🏽 To be honest, Im still in disbelief that we’ve made it this far! Every single morning I wake up with so much gratitude.....Im thankful for being blessed with this pregnancy and incredibly humbled knowing we beat all odds to get here! #dreamnurserymovement #deivf #ivftriplets
7 M O N T H S 🌈 It’s all going way to fast Flo baby. I hope I NEVER forget this cackling laugh and crazy tongue of yours. Or these silky smooth cheeks. Or the best squishy wrist rolls ever created. I never want to forget exactly how you look at me when I rock you to sleep - like I am your EVERYTHING. I hope I can always remember the feeling I get during our early morning bean bag cuddles - that you are ALL mine and I can protect you in my arms forever. 😭 Or how you aggressively kiss me on the mouth with the most intense eye contact and face grab I’ve ever encountered during a French kiss. I just want to live here forever. 🤗 RIGHT HERE, among your laughs, your cuddles, your saliva and your strong bond to me. You believing that we are still ONE, because I certainly don’t ever want to be TWO. 😭 If I could super glue you to my body, I would. I’M NOT READY for you to grow. If I could freeze time it would be now - 7 months old, my favorite version of you so far. For now, I am still your everything. I am all you need. I know that will change. I know these moments won’t last forever. I know that one day you will want to French kiss someone else. You will want to cuddle someone else. I know I won’t be your everything forever. But know this Flo Baby, its okay, it doesn’t matter, because you will ALWAYS, ALWAYS, ALWAYS be my everything. ❤️ #amothersloveisforever #letterstoflo #sevenmonthsold #deivf #soulmatestuff
When you are low key peeing at a pool party, but still wanna look cute for the photo. 😆#idontthinkyourereadyforthisjelly #itswarmeroverhere #summerbodyready

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